So I’ve been hanging around on Pinterest a lot lately and I have noticed some disturbing changes that I want to address. Pinterest has been a game changer for anyone planning ANYTHING from a wedding to a recipe to decorating your fantasy house. Wedding planning on Pinterest has been FUN. Like Whose Line is it Anyway – where all of the pretty things are possible and the prices don’t matter. Even though this is my 16th wedding season coming up this year, I’m still excited to experience all of the events my couples are planning and see what surprises might be on the horizon for the new decade! It’s the off season and I want to fantasy plan too – so I typed in “2020 wedding trends” and while a lot of pins and posts popped up heralding the coming of things like “wedding charcuterie” (OMG YES PLEASE) “the return of colorful palettes” (yay!) and “dogs in weddings” (SERIOUSLY IS THIS GOING TO BE THE BEST YEAR EVER??)
However, I was surprised to find a lot of articles that sounded like this: “Top 10 things that are totally OUT for 2020” and “Five things your wedding guests will hate you for” and the one that made me really want to throw up: “how to plan a wedding your guests won’t think is boring”. Honorable mentions go to: “”five wedding mistakes you’ll hate yourself for” and “how not to look fat at your wedding”.
**im just gonna take a full pause for a moment**
So I can make space for everyone to hear me and my almost 2 decades of experience with over 300 couples plus planning my own wedding to say
THIS. IS. BULLSHIT.
*Climbs onto soapbox* It’s 2020 friends, and you can do whatever the hell you want for your wedding. You want to reuse Aunt Laura’s centerpieces from 2003 cause you were her flower girl and you loved them? Do it, girl! You want to wear a vintage suit jacket from goodwill cause it feels more like yourself than anything from the department store? I love it! You want to have the wedding you started Pinteresting in 2012 even though you’ve been to 6 weddings that looked just like it before it was your turn? You go and live your truth, Queen! I’m gonna cheer for you allllllll day long. You wanna get married with your beloved and your beagle on top of a mountain and leave all the judgey people at home. I will pack the champagne!
Your marriage, and the day that you make that marriage official is YOUR day for you to celebrate with the two of you however it feels the best. You do not owe anyone an “epic day” but yourselves. Your marriage is not a spectacle that has to outdo or live up to the last 3 weddings you attended. Your wedding a.k.a. your marriage is not something you need to decorate and offer up to the stage for judgment. It’s better than that. Your wedding does not need to keep up with the Kardashians. And anyone that you are worried about “being bored” at your wedding – does not need to be invited to your wedding. Trust me. You won’t even know those people in 5 years. And while we’re here, you don’t need to invite any family members that make you feel terrible about yourself. The people who should be at your wedding are the people who will be glued to your vows, and feeling your tears, and cheering when you walk in the door. I don’t even know you, but that’s what I’ll be doing at your wedding.
#2020weddingseasonbestyet
